(Looking for “6 tips for enjoying family time” ? It’s the post immediately below this one.)
When a conflict is in the way…
You know if you have an ‘issue’ with someone. You don’t want them around you, you feel resistant at the mention of their name, the thought of the last time you saw them, or seeing them again gets you fidgety.
If you want to own your heart space then, you’ve got work to do. At the moment you’ve made this conflict bigger than you.
It may not be time to speak with them but it is time to take ownership of your issue with them. Listen to yourself. What benefit do you get from leaving matters as they are? Strength? Power? Avoiding rejection, sidestepping your feelings or an outburst – safety?
Decide consciously if you want to keep carrying this tension (subtle as it may be). I used to have a gripe with myself which regularly gave me head and neck pain!!
What would you re-claim if you were to heal the rift? Health? Freedom around family events? Friendship? Self-respect?
Why wait?
